There are so many ways we can rely on consistency to improve our quality of life: working out, eating right, reading a few pages every day, etc. Why do we delay? Why do we make excuses? Why is it so easy to skip out on the daily journey that IS the success? When fathers display consistency in our own lives, we model this “easy-button for goal fulfillment” for our children to imitate.
Consistency is Key to Success
Inspired by an amazing idea, getting started is easy. When the initial hype dies down, how do we remain committed? It’s very simple for some people but very difficult for so many more: just do the thing. Every. Single. Day. When we don’t see immediate returns, it’s easy to tell ourselves, “There’s always tomorrow.” Ironically, the days we take off are the days that make the difference. When something truly matters, we owe it to ourselves to hunker down and do what needs to be done. Consistency is the single most reliable indicator of whether or not we will accomplish our goals.
We prioritize air. If we want something as badly as we want to breathe, we will have it. As we pursue our goals, we can blame others… or we can assume responsibility for owning every part of the process. When talented people fall short, it’s usually for one reason: lack of consistency. In his book, Extreme Ownership, American author, Jocko Willink wrote, “You have to be vigilant. You have to be on guard. You have to hold the line on the seemingly insignificant little things—things that shouldn’t matter—but that do.”
More than most habits, consistency comes from within, making it very difficult to “teach.” No matter what we want in life, every single human being can set our course and go full-steam ahead, refusing to succumb to any obstacle that threatens to interfere with our daily forward progress.
Remove complications and stay focused. Simplicity equals sustainability. Value progress over perfection. One way or another, dad’s standards are on display. By telling friends and family about our goals, we can set boundaries to protect our pursuits, effectively teaching our loved ones to respect our journey. This might sound a little crazy, but imagine if every single day, looking into our own eyes in the mirror, we and our children repeated these two mind-hack “I will” statements to ourselves…
“Today and every day, I will be someone people can count on.”
“Today and every day, I will make the necessary sacrifices to achieve my goals.”
There is one exceedingly simple way to maintain consistency. Rather than trying to be fueled by the outcome, be driven by the process. Allow that which demands our consistency to become one with our conscious existence. Sometimes, we just aren’t in the mood; this is the weakness of human nature telling us we deserve an “off-day” or “there’s always tomorrow.” Remember this in the deepest part of the heart: when we set an achievable goal and voluntarily give ourselves over to the process, success is inevitable. Consistency is a choice. American entrepreneur, Eddie Pinero, says, “No endeavor is a coin flip when you use a double-headed quarter.” With inconsistency, we tend to lose. With consistency, we tend to win.
“Therefore, my dear brothers and sisters, be steadfast, immovable, always excelling in the Lord’s work, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.” —1 Corinthians 15:58 CSB
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